Matchmaking sounds like a lazy way to find a partner, but you will be surprised to learn just how effective it actually is. A lot of people – maybe even millions – have met and forged successful relationships through a matchmaker of some type.
A matchmaker could be a mutual friend or a professional agency that specializes in bringing people together for love. This article explores the latter.
How old is the matchmaking tradition?
The practice of matchmaking is as old as time itself. Rather, it has been happening for as long as people have been around and having relationships. In the traditional Jewish society, for example, a shadchan (matchmaker) was a highly regarded person. The Hindus also relied on an astrologer to help them pick the right potential partners.
There is no need thus to shy away from a process that has worked for such a long time if you are interested in finding the perfect soulmate. This practice has been revolutionized by the rise of the internet, which has made it possible to meet partners from an even larger part of the world.
How matchmakers work
Matchmakers are agencies with several workers who are regarded as relationship experts. It is common practice to have agents who have studied psychology, but this is not a mandatory requirement.
Once an individual approaches a matchmaker, they are assigned a specific agent who normally handles the entire process of finding a partner. The matchmaker holds a lengthy conversation with the client seeking to understand as much as possible about their desires. Such details include experiences from past relationships, attributes that you desire in a partner, your interests and hobbies, career etc.
This conversation is usually held over the phone but some agencies go the extra mile of meeting their clients face to face.
After the initial conversation, the matchmaker sets out to find a person who fits the client’s description. They use their own personal intuition combined with the knowledge acquired from talking to the client to identify such a person. Matchmakers are always interviewing people, so they find a potential partner from a catalog of sorts.
At times, the matchmaker may advise a client to adjust their expectations. This is not common in agencies that are just interested in making money, but those that are about making functional pairings. As an expert, the matchmaker may, for example, discover that a client is missing out on a great partner because they are insisting on a single physical attribute that may not be of specific use to the relationship.
Once the matchmaker finds a potential match, they call the client back and deliver the news. They give each potential partner the details of the other and ask them if they would like to meet. If the answer is yes, the agency then arranges a meeting at a place and time of convenience to both parties.
Details given often exclude personal items like second names, addresses and phone numbers. These the partners are expected to exchange personally if things work out.
The partners then take the next step of a face-to-face meeting. They engage and later give their feedback to the matchmaker. If they feel that the date could be the start of a blissful relationship, they tell the matchmaker to hold their membership and not find them other dates. If not, they return to the matchmaking pond.